How Are You?

How are you? This simple question can evoke so many emotions.  Our answer may be impacted by the time, circumstance, relationship to the questioner, attitude, experience, location, etc.

I've chosen to consciously respond to those with whom I don't have an established relationship with any positive response other than "fine". 

Opportunities to positively connect expand exponentially when we ask any other positively engaging question other than "how are you?"

Gift of Change

This morning, I altered my normal walk route to be able to exercise and mail some letters.  Though the distance was the same, I hesitated for a moment.  I could walk my comfortable, normal route and mail the letters on the way to my first meeting.  After considering the possibilities, I opted to multi-task. The gifts of change were threefold:

• gorgeous eastern sunrise
• to-do list item completed before 8:00 a.m.
• acknowledgement that change doesn't have to be big to be high impact

Board Engagement

We tried an experiment with a nonprofit board that I chair.  We conducted board orientation after we had included the new board members in two events:

• board reception for new, retiring and returning board members and senior staff 
• board meeting and state of the organization presentation

All three activities were held within a two week period.  Feedback was positive.  The new board members had a chance to visit socially in a lovely home with key staff, seasoned board members and one another before engaging in governance.  When they participated in board orientation, they already had a broader sense of the opportunities and challenges facing the organization and knew many of the other board and staff who were also committed to serving children and families in Texas.

There are many ways to foster engagement including shared vision, passion and camaraderie.

What Does it Take?

One of the best, most painful lessons I learned happened in fourth grade.  My very capable and experienced teacher told me that if I did X I'd get an A. I did X and she gave me a B. I felt like a failure (my first B) and knew that I'd been betrayed.  After many tears and Mama's conversation with my teacher, we discovered that she thought (knew) I could do more.  She was correct.  I could have done more.  However, I did what I thought it took to succeed (make an A). 

Since 4th grade, I've always known that doing our best is all that ultimately matters.

Though my situation worked out fine (I graduated second in my class), it could have played out differently. 

We need to be clear in our expectations and the resulting rewards.  And we owe it to all involved to discuss what actions/changes might improve results. 

Embracing, Accepting or Rejecting Change

I've long rejoiced in the fact that I embrace change.  This attitude has served me well through my life and career.  I now realize the difference between embracing and accepting change.  It's far easier to embrace change when you truly believe that things will be better as a result of the change.  Yes, things will be different.  But, when we know that the pain (of change) is worth the gain (of change), we can easily or readily or even hesitantly embrace the change.  This prospect of making things better motivates or sustains us.  

Willingness to change is also beneficial when the change is negative.  Though the dynamics can quickly change from aggressive adoption of positive change to the passive acquiescence of negative change, both patterns can work. With negative change, it's a longer, harder trajectory, but success can be achieved.

Another scenario is the rejection of change.  Oddly enough, the decision to reject change ultimately causes a very profound change.  In business, the refusal to change to accommodate a new environment results in a voluntary or involuntary change in employment.

Whether we embrace, accept or reject change, we must be ready to deal with our decision.

Make My Day

A long-time, younger friend who just joined a non-profit board for which I'm beginning my 3rd year of service, made my day this week.  During introductions, she highlighted another board member and me as women she'd always admired.  Her very thoughtful acknowledgement provided a highlight in an otherwise frustrating business day.

We each have many opportunities to make someone's day.  Let's seize more of these opportunities.

Too Much Information

We've all been exposed to more information than we desire from over-eager friends and colleagues.  Recently I was presented an offer that was literally too good to be true - 90% discount on an incredible array of personal development books and tools from many noted experts.  My initial reaction was to seize this opportunity.  However, as I reviewed the offer, I opted not to purchase.  There was too much great information.  I knew that not being able to devote time to use each of these now available options would increase rather than reduce my stress level.

In offers and in life, balance is supreme.