Friday, April 11, 2014

Fun "To Do"

So often my to do list is filled with things that need to be done.  Since I've started adding fun things to the list, it's not quite as tedious.  Still get to check off the musts, but it's great get to enjoy and check off the wants, too.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

A Flat Tire Doesn't Have to Suck the Air Out of Your Day

My day had gone so very well, and I was really looking forward to a small dinner party, in a lovely home, with interesting, accomplished women.  And when the air went suddenly out of my tire, on the way to the party, I chose not to let this suck the air out of an otherwise great day.  Yes, I was disappointed, frustrated and inconvenienced.  Yet, as I've been doing, I chose to put it in perspective and focus on the positives of a negative situation.


  • I stopped for gas seconds after I drove over whatever obstacle damaged my tire, and discovered the problem.  This was a low speed road hazard incident with no loss of vehicle control or wheel damage, and the car had not yet even exhibited flat tire symptoms.  Had I stopped for gas, as intended, earlier  in the day, the situation would have been far worse.
  • It was daylight, in somewhat familiar territory, and my vehicle's roadside assistance was a phone call away.
  • The dinner party wasn't at my home.
Lessons reinforced:
  • Patience
  • Flexibility
  • Gratitude
  • Some things can't be controlled
  • There are so many lovely, skilled people willing to assist us when we acknowledge their talents.

When bad things happen we can choose to be victims or victorious.  Victorious feels a million times better!

Tuesday, April 8, 2014


We all encounter unexpected things each day that cause us to change course.  Whether we view these obstacles as mere speed bumps, or road closings is up to us.  When we're forced to slow down, we must consciously consider next steps.  Sometimes these pauses render better outcomes than we would have gotten at full speed ahead.  And, even when it's an actual forced detour, we can choose to enjoy the scenery along the way or grumble.  It sometimes takes an obstacle to free us to to take another, often better, path.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Responses to Unfamiliar

It is always interesting to note how others react to the unfamiliar including:

  • caution
  • acceptance
  • waiting to see how others respond
  • questioning
  • disengaging
  • eagerness
  • curiosity
  • exploring
  • leaving
  • getting information from the most knowledgeable person present
  • stress
  • excitement
  • nonchalance
  • rejection
  • endorsement
None of these is right or wrong.  These are simply different ways of processing new things. Regardless of our enthusiasm, it's important for those of us introducing change, to be able to recognize and accommodate various understandable ways of processing the unfamiliar. 

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

It's Not Just the Words

Consider the difference in each of these differently ordered phrases:

  • Good Morning, God!
  • Good God, it's morning...
  • Good Morning, it's God.
  • Good, it's morning, God.
  • It's a good morning God!
  • Morning God!  It is good!
It's not only the words we use, but how we combine them, our emphasis, intent and meaning.  Praise, disbelief, acceptance, moving forward, expectation and thanks are among the sentiments that can be expressed as we say these same words differently.

When it's important, we need to remember to make certain that the words we've used have been received as intended, rather than any number of other very different ways. 

Monday, March 31, 2014

Technology Desert

It would have been awesome if I'd experienced a technology dessert - think of the enjoyment without the calories and guilt.  However, mine was a technology desert, without an oasis.  We've become so very dependent upon technology that when it fails, we have an unexpected sense of loss and an accelerated sense of frustration.

I've been loyal to my technology provider forever.  In fact, I worked for the company during my first career.When my technology began failing quickly, and my only option was to patiently wait a week for a 4 hour repair window, that my working schedule would allow, my journey in the technology desert began.

My week in the technology desert highlighted the importance of:

  • alternate ways to operate
  • patience
  • skill and persistence of technicians
  • perspective
Consciously disconnecting is to be commended.  Being abruptly disconnected forces us to ultimately realize some of the same benefits.  

We all like choices.  Choosing when we want a technology desert rather than a technology oasis is the best option.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Lessons from My Microwave

Life was far different before the introduction of the microwave, decades ago.  And life will continue to change.  Oddly enough, our microwaves teach us about life:

  • seconds matter
  • we pay a price for convenience
  • most tools are not universal 
  • even in a contained space, big messes are hard to clean up
  • fast isn't always best
  • even if you prefer to be open in life, coverage is best in some settings
  • we sometimes take for granted gifts that most don't enjoy