One of our new, unique Sterling Bank "fun"draising projects for March of Dimes was "Dress an Executive for Halloween". I had 10 other willing senior executives who agreed with me to be bid upon for dressing rights. Our teams were tame, and only three chose to bid. Each of these teams chose to dress their own senior executive. Since I was not an executive to be dressed, I rallied my other "non-chosen" colleagues to donate to dress our willing CEO.
We "mummified" our CEO, discovered that our Operations EVP is a "hot dog", realized from our HR "flapper" EVP that there's a lighter side to work and ascertained that our Specialty Banking and Investments EVP will step way out of his comfort zone to make a great impression.
When we're willing to be vulnerable, we often make great connections and memories.
Showing posts with label comfort. Show all posts
Showing posts with label comfort. Show all posts
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Pain - Experience - Comfort
When we are in the midst of a personal crisis, it's impossible to see, believe or understand that lessons will be learned from the profound pain. We must deal with our situation in the manner and time frame that work with our volatile emotions, fragile state and capacity to deal with well-meaning, caring, insensitive and unknowing individuals. At the point when we've dealt with the initial shock and adjustment to an altered reality that we never imagined, we must put our new life together one baby step per day. Some days will be baby steps forward. Others will be baby or big steps backward. Each step, regardless of the direction, is a way of dealing with our new future.
No two experiences are alike. But, pain is real. Regardless of the way that we process our loss, we can all benefit from sincere empathy, especially of others who have lost loved ones.
Thus, the comfort. When we receive the comfort extended by others, regardless of form, the giver and we benefit. I still vividly remember critically assessing comments when my brother Mark died. I was mourning, angry and inept at dealing with the situation. Two years later, as we had the unthinkable grief of dealing with my brother Steve's death, I'd matured in my thinking. Since I'd already experienced profound, untimely loss, I'd had the chance to realize, recognize and process the reality that any expression of concern is appropriate and appreciated. We teach our children to deal with so many realities. However, dealing with death is not in the curriculum.
Anyone who extends an expression of sympathy, regardless of form, is to be appreciated. They've done what other well-meaning, but unacting others would like to express.
From our pain, we gain experience. When we use our experience to comfort others we reduce our pain and increase our comfort.
No two experiences are alike. But, pain is real. Regardless of the way that we process our loss, we can all benefit from sincere empathy, especially of others who have lost loved ones.
Thus, the comfort. When we receive the comfort extended by others, regardless of form, the giver and we benefit. I still vividly remember critically assessing comments when my brother Mark died. I was mourning, angry and inept at dealing with the situation. Two years later, as we had the unthinkable grief of dealing with my brother Steve's death, I'd matured in my thinking. Since I'd already experienced profound, untimely loss, I'd had the chance to realize, recognize and process the reality that any expression of concern is appropriate and appreciated. We teach our children to deal with so many realities. However, dealing with death is not in the curriculum.
Anyone who extends an expression of sympathy, regardless of form, is to be appreciated. They've done what other well-meaning, but unacting others would like to express.
From our pain, we gain experience. When we use our experience to comfort others we reduce our pain and increase our comfort.
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