We See What We Look For

There is great comfort in the familiar. We enjoy being with family, friends and associates who are familiar to us. We know what to expect. There's not the discomfort of the unknown. However, this comfort can lead to taking these special ones for granted.

From dictionary.com:
"take somebody for granted -to not show that you are grateful to someone for helping you or that you are happy they are with you, often because they have helped you or been with you so often. One of the problems with relationships is that after a while you begin to take each other for granted."

We fall into the trap of seeing what we look for. We aren't open to the ever changing thoughts, ideas, perspectives and aspirations of these special individuals. When we fall into this trap we can critique faults, shortcomings and our unmet expectations. We can forget to show appreciation for their time, gifts, talents, caring and unique perspectives.

We can actually be more open-minded and receptive to strangers and acquaintances because we don't yet know what to expect.

I'm going to look with fresh eyes at the special people in my life. I know I'll see amazing skills, talents and experiences that I've been missing.